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Mikhail's Story
When I first learned that my
three-year-old son, Mikhail, was officially brain dead, I remember
the nurse that had been attending us for the last fifteen hours approaching
me regarding possible organ donations. She then left me, wanting to
give me some time to think about such an endeavor.
I remember all of my son's generosity during his short life.
I remember him going through his toys with me to find some to give
away. He donated his outgrown bed to a little girl who had never had
a bed to sleep in. Just days before his death, he had stood in the
park with our church members on Thanksgiving, helping to serve the
homeless.
I recalled all these things as I stood in that quiet room where Mikhail
lay, with no sound but the quiet swoosh of his respirator. I mulled
over their request for his organs. I fancied that I could hear him
whispering, "Yes Mom, take my heart take all those things that
they need. For I don't need them anymore. These thoughts
are what inspired my poem, which was later to be published "Take
My Heart0;.
It is difficult to just simply put words down out of context, without
giving you a little of the story. What takes some people a lifetime
to learn, my son had learned in three short years. The gift of giving
is eternal and transcends all barriers of life or death.
It did not take me long to say the words out loud to this sweet nurse
who stood quietly by. Yes! We would be willing to give what ever was
needed. This is what my son would have wanted.
In that wintry December, while others were out shopping for material
gifts for their loved ones, Mikhail was giving the gift of gifts.
He gave his liver to a young baby and his kidneys to a teenager; so
that they might be given a second chance at life.
People often ask me how I feel about my son's organs being in
someone else. My answer has always been the same. Knowing
that at least two lives were saved because of my son's generosity
gave his life and death full meaning. The devastation of losing my
son at such a tender age was softened by the knowledge that someone
else's child would be given a new life.
While we know medically that the DNA of the organ donor and recipient
will never be one, it is my feeling that spiritually speaking, the
generosity of the donor and the special ness of the recipient will
meld and become one. This special bond will pass from one generation
to another and so much good will come from this meld.
People are concerned with the environment, and respond by recycling
this and that. In my opinion, organ donation is recycling of the highest
order.
Sincerely,
Dr. Stephanie K McCurdy/Pearson, D.C. |